网络电信诈骗横行 我们该怎么教会家人避免成为诈骗受害者

电子通讯日益发达，诈骗犯不再需要与你见面就可以盗取你的财物。 诈骗方式千变万化，行骗的人会千方百计地让你付出金钱或透露他们需要的信息。

诈骗者可能冒充银行的职员或服务人员。他们也可能会唆使引诱你投注体育比赛或告诉你短期投资发财的机会。 他们会宣称有能力为你追讨境外的欠款。浪漫交友约会以及其他一些借口也是诈骗者惯用的方式。

从表面上看，这些似乎都非常真实可信。避免成为诈骗活动的受害者，你可以采取以下列出的一些简单的自我保护措施。记住，有些事情如果听起来太完美，那么其中一定有问题 .

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■ 永远不要把钱转给你不认识的人，也不要透露你的信用卡或在线银行账户的资料。 

■ 总是在获取独立的金融或法律建议之后再作投资或购买决定。 

■ 永远不要仅仅依赖那些向你推销服务或投资机会的人的建议。

上门推销或“工人骗局” ■ 不要迫于压力签署任何合约或预先付钱。 ■ 时刻记得在同意付钱或签署合约之前要调查相关公司或服务商的情况。 ■ 时刻记得在同意付钱之前要仔细阅读合约或有关服务的文件。

保护你的个人资料 ■ 永远不要把个人或银行资料透露给你不认识的人。 ■ 时刻记得在诈骗者与你接触联络之后要马上向你的银行、金融机构或服务商报告。 ■ 不要在答复收到的电邮之前用同一个电邮中提供的电话号码确认该电邮是否真实。

不要相信表象 ■ 不要被看似合法的电邮或看似真实的网站链接迷惑。 ■ 不要打开阅读可疑或“不请自来”的电子邮件（垃圾电邮）。对这些电邮应该不予理睬。 ■ 时刻警惕那些突如其来的电话（Cold Calling），要确认与你讲话的人是谁。

在人人一部手机的时代，我们每天不只要面对垃圾信息、还有诈骗电话的风险。几乎我们每个人都或多或少遭到过类似的骚扰，有些人还不慎落入了圈套，损失惨重。那我们该怎么教会家人避免受骗，就是一个很重要的。

不少诈骗犯利用各种人性的弱点如涉事不深，富有同情心、关爱感、思亲人等特点，利用各种手段对你加以不法侵害（尤其是网络电信诈骗、盗窃、故意伤害等方面），给家人的生活、财富，身心健康带来了巨大的创伤。

如遇下面这些常见的诈骗“套路”大家就要警惕了，是否已走进了骗子的圈套。

　　1 冒充领导、熟人类诈骗

　　在德安县工作的邓先生，近日收到一个自称其好友申请，“好友”称因为应酬，请求邓先生转5万元帮助他周转，邓先生不疑有他，以银行卡转账的方式将5万块钱分两次分别转账给“好友”。收到钱后，对方又以钱不够为由，继续让邓先生转钱。邓先生产生怀疑，遂与好友联系核实发现被骗，随即报警。

　　怎么破?

　　对于以领导名义加QQ、的，首先应核实对方身份;涉及转账汇款的，千万不要轻信，务必与本人进行确认。同时，注意保护个人及单位信息。如遇诈骗，务必保留聊天记录、转账记录等，并第一时间报警。

　　2 ”杀猪盘“诈骗

　　今年年初，德安公安局接到潘某报案称，其被人通过网络诈骗了400余万元。经了解，2019年11月22日潘某在家中玩手机时通过一个兼职群加了一QQ好友，后对方让潘某一款名叫“聊友”的软件。对方让潘某按照软件内的导师指导，下注刷流水盈利。潘某信以为真就在软件内注册充值后开始下注，但每次的下注结果基本都输掉了。在对方哄骗下，潘某又陆续向对方提供的银行账号充值共412万元，之后潘某发现自己账户被冻结无法登陆，遂报警。

　　怎么破?

　　通过网络社交软件添加好友，以网络投资赌博“手把手”教你挣钱的，一定要提高警惕。有疑问应拨打96110咨询，如遭遇诈骗第一时间到公安机关报案。

　　3 冒充电商物流客服诈骗

　　今年5月，九江市民王某接到了一个电话，对方声称是XX旗舰店的客服人员，最近有很多客户反映该店出售的内衣有质量问题，工厂要求将货物全部回收，厂家会将购买货物的款项退回并承诺自退款之日起4个月内如果身体不适发生的相关医疗费用会全部给予补偿，让王某查看自己的支付宝里有没有收到退款。王某挂断电话查看自己的支付宝并没有收到相关退款，对对方并没有完全信任。随后，王某查看自己的网购记录后发现，自己确实购买过这家店铺的该款内衣，且穿过后身上出现了起红疹现象便相信了对方所说，立即回电话给客服人员。

　　对方称市场监督管理局已介入调查，王某现在需要按照他所说的进行操。随即给了王某一个财务部客服的QQ号，王某按照对方要求，通过支付宝内的借呗申请借款4万元，后又通过其他借款平台借款1万一起转给了对方，可对方表示没有收到该款并要求王某再次转账5万元，王某这才发现被骗。

　　怎么破?

　　客服一般不会主动要求退款;所有电商平台的退货流程都应在该电商平台上完成。接到自称网店、快递客服的退款、理赔电话时，应先给官方客服打电话核实确认，不要随意陌生链接及扫描二维码，切忌在陌生网站内输入自己的信息。遇到金钱交易，自己拿捏不清的，要与家人商量或向相关部门询问，避免自己陷入骗局。

　　4 冒充”公检法“诈骗

　　今年4月，九江市民李某接到一个自称是九江市某分局“警官”的电话，电话中“警官”报出李某的个人信息，并告诉他涉及一个诈骗案。随后，该“警官”将电话转到了自称长沙市公安局。当李某表示怀疑时，对方加其QQ，并发送了警官证，李某打消顾虑。李某按照对方要求将所有支付账号上的余额截图发给对方，后李某将所有金额汇总到一张卡内，并将银行卡账号和收到的验证码告诉“警官”，以便该“警官”将账号冻结。按照对方提示，几天过去后，李某发现卡内23万余元均被转走，这才意识到被骗立刻报警。

　　怎么破?

　　公检法机关不会通过电话办案，只有进行案件回访、电话止付劝解等少数情况时，公安机关才会采用电话形式。公检法机关不设立“安全账户”，更不会让人转账汇款到安全账户。公检法机关不会通过电话、网络通知当事人转账进行资金审查，不会通过QQ、、网站等方式向当事人展示相关“逮捕令”等法律文书和个人工作证件。

　　接到此番说词的电话，一定不要相信，要保持冷静，不要被骗子威逼恐吓。当有人自称是机关工作人员打电话告知你涉嫌某种犯罪，并要求你将存款转存到所谓的“安全账户”以进行核实、保全资金的，都是诈骗行为，切勿上当。

　　5 刷单返利类诈骗

　　今年2月，都昌县市民张女士在家刷抖音时看到了一个名为“蝴蝶云”的聊天平台，上面有刷单业务的介绍，之后便了这款APP，进入后开始接单。前几单都成功后对方开始向她介绍更大的数额，数额越刷越大，且对方以各种理由让张女士汇款，等张女士意识到被骗时，已损失45745元。

　　怎么破?

　　首先，刷单行为是违法的。没有低投入、高回报的好事，请通过正规渠道找兼职。不要轻易或扫描陌生人发来的网页链接和二维码。一旦发现被骗，请第一时间报警!

　　6 冒充网络婚恋、交友类诈骗

　　柴桑区的吴某在某相亲网站上认识了一男子李某，李某称自己是做生意的，双方很快确认恋人关系。没多久李某告诉吴某自己在一个叫“港澳资讯”的平台赚了很多钱，愿意带吴某一起挣钱。

　　吴某扫描二维码进入了该平台后，在李某的指导下开始下注。从最开始的下注500元，到6000元，甚至10000元，均赚钱并提现成功。后李某以结婚等各项开销比较大，让吴某多投点钱一起挣钱当做结婚后的共同资产。于是吴某按照李某所说，将自己所有的钱都充值进该平台。可这时，吴某发现无法提现。经询问得知需累计充值满20万元才能提现，吴某遂又借款再次充值，却依然无法提现。当李某提出，让吴某将房产抵押凑钱充值再将余额全部提现出来，吴某这才发觉不对劲报警。

　　怎么破?

　　网络博彩本就是违法行为，大家第一时间选择远离。对于网络上刚认识的网友一定要特别注意，不要相信所谓的“快速致富”和“系统漏洞”等谎言，应时刻提高警惕，不要轻信“花言巧语”，理性看待问题，不要幻想高回报和一夜暴富。

　　7 贷款、代办信用卡类诈骗

　　在某餐馆打工的李先生，一直想自己创业但苦于缺少启动资金，也无法通过正规渠道获取贷款。一天下班后，李先生在餐馆门上看到一张推销贷款名片。于是，想贷款的李先生就联系了贷款名片中的客服电话，并添加对方QQ好友。李先生告诉贷款客服自己需要贷款20万元，两人就在QQ上聊贷款细节。之后，客服用QQ发了一张贷款合同让李先生填写好后拍照发过去。客服称李先生的贷款审核通过了，能够马上放款，但需要先支付15000元的合同保证金。一直担心自己贷款审核不通过的李先生马上通过客服QQ发给的支付链接支付了15000元。

　　一天后，李先生的贷款还没有到账，又联系了客服，对方称李先生的银行卡流水不够，贷款发放前被叫停，现在需要部门经理帮其优化银行流水才能成功放款。李先生按客服要求电话联系了公司经理，并按对方要求将25000元转到公司银行账户上。第二天，李先生联系不上对方，才意识到被骗。

　　如何破?

　　贷款并不需要交保证金、做银行流水账，一旦遇上了，一定是假的。千万不要把自己的银行卡密码、动态验证码提供给陌生人。如需贷款请一定到正规银行或知名网贷公司，按正规程序贷款。一旦确认自己被诈骗或陷入套路贷，一定要及时报警。

信息爆炸的时代 我们该怎么教会孩子分辨真假新闻

为什么人们容易轻信“小道消息”或“网络消息”？人们就算一开始不相信谣言，但是，反复多次听到之后，也会“三人成虎”变得相信谣言。

心理学家尼古拉斯迪方佐认为，这是一种真相错觉效应（Illusion of truth effect）。为什么谣言散播会那么强？社会心理学家高尔顿奥尔波特和利奥波斯特曼整理了谣言的法则发现，谣言的内容越重要，以及状况越不确实，谣言的强度变得越强大。

朋友圈、各类公众号自媒体里，充斥着各种各样的新闻、报道、视频、还有五花八门的“小道消息”。

这些消息的标题从：“疫情是某国的生化武器”、“疫情有特效药品”、“每天吃XX防止疫情”、等等骇人的标题。

到目前为止，无论是我们的学校还是家庭，都没有把教会孩子如何分辨真假网络消息当件重要的事。而且别说是孩子，各位父母们扪心自问，你的脑子里有没有一套可实操落地的方法去鉴别一条网络信息的真伪呢？

分辨真假消息除了要求要有相当的知识面以外，还需要有一套鉴别信息真假的流程来去应对各种谣言、伪知识。看破谣言，不传播谣言可能就要求我们对信息要有知其然，还要求我们知其所以然。

我们需要培养孩子一个重要的责任意识，也就是，在你分享、转发一条消息时你就有责任要去确定一下信息的可信度。那么该如何去分辨信息可靠性呢？其实说起来也只有很简单：

第一步：查找信息源

对于重要信息，一定要让孩子养成追溯信息源头或者查找信息最早的发源地。信息上有源头链接的，一定记得向上追溯，没有链接，可以用搜索引擎输入关键字寻找。要确保自己一路追踪到信息的源头，或最早的相关信息。对于完全找不到出处的信息，无论听起来多美好，都不要轻信。

第二步：验证信息源

无论是新闻、图片、视频、音频，在分辨信息真假时，最重要的一点是确信它的来源是否可信。当我们追踪到了信息源，就要对信息源做一个评估：

这个机构、网站真的存在吗？是不是假冒的？他们真的做了他们所说的事？他们的信誉如何？这里，还要注意到，孩子们的天性会让他们更倾向于“自动”相信老师、长辈、朋友、同学、网红大咖的话，尤其是那些点击率、点赞数极高的热文、爆文，以为这些信息源是可信的，而忽视了亲朋好友也有可能给他们传递的是谣言，网红大咖也可能说谎！

第三步：检查其他信息源

网络自媒体时代，从表面看起来大家获得的信息更多、更广、更快，而且似乎我们获得信息总是能印证我们已有的观念。其实这是个巨大的陷阱，现在几乎所有社交媒体都采用了智能推送技术，意味着你越喜欢看什么内容，平台就会给你推送更多这方面的信息。在大选期间社交媒体曾经利用这种方法操控选民投票意向。

互联网自媒体时代，复制粘贴一篇文章实在是太容易了这给我们在查找信息源头时带来了很多困难，而且个别媒体为了点击数甚至会随意编造新闻。作为家长，我们有责任引导孩子，在确认了一个信息源之后，还要尝试从更多的渠道去检查，尤其是应该留意那些反方信息源。

第四步：使用 Fact-Check（真相核验）工具

有很多Fact-Check网站专门收集各种谣言，并辟谣，提供真相，或者帮助别人鉴定信息的真伪。教会孩子使用这些网络工具对抗查证谣言的同时，也需要告诉他们，这些辟谣也是人提供的，不一定是完全正确的，在查找时一定要持有“怀疑精神”切记不能盲目相信，但是可以从这里获得更多的信息，帮你进行更深一步的查证。

第五步：培养孩子对假消息的警惕性

实施真伪鉴定法对于家长来说并不难，但是对孩子还是有一定难度的，实施鉴定法的前提是要对消息的真伪产生了怀疑，而现在的难点是怎么帮助孩子培养对假消息的警惕性呢？

下面四个真伪预警器，可以帮助家长和孩子们共同培养对假消息的警惕性：

1、时效性

媒体信息，包括信息中引用的科研结果，都有时效性。有人或者是自己不当心 ，或者是别有图谋，把过时的、错误的信息拿出来。要留心这信息是什么时候的？最后的更新时间是什么时候？

2、可信度

任何一条媒体信息都是人精心炮制出来的，哪怕在网络上可能很难追踪到原始的作者，但一定要让孩子意识到，是人创造了每一条媒体信息。要请孩子思考：

- 信息是从哪里来的？是谁制作了这条媒体信息？

- 如果其中提到相关数据，这些数据有正当的来源吗？

- 信息参考了哪些文献？这些文献可靠吗？

- 你有什么证据证明信息是可靠的吗？

3、目的性

让孩子知道，所有的媒体信息都是有目的的。有些媒体信息是经济利益驱动的，比如所有的广告、企业宣传；有些媒体信息是权力驱动的，大到政党政治权力，小到点击率、点赞数等社会影响力。这是媒体信息的基本属性。所以要问问孩子：

为什么有人要传播这条信息？这条信息是要通知你什么消息，还是为了逗你开心消磨时光，还是为了说服你做出什么决定？

这条信息听起来是事实还是观点？有没有明显的偏见？

4、去广告

要让孩子知道什么是广告，广告都有哪些形式，以及广告是怎么操控我们的。同时还要让孩子知道，除了硬广，还要当心软广，比如电影里的植入广告、打着科研旗号实则是由商家赞助的研究、利益相关方的调查，等等。

所以告诉孩子，但凡激发你购物冲动的，都是广告！！！

孩子注定要在享受最便捷的信息的同时，也要面对最庞杂的信息困扰。我们家长也是任重道远，培养孩子分辨真伪信息仅仅是我们面临的众多问题中的一个。

如果您觉得文章对您有帮助，把这篇分辨真假新闻的文章转发给您身边的朋友。让我们一起去帮助更多的人。

How to live a happy life

Koon Yew Yin

During my lifetime I have learnt numerous lessons, some are useless and some are useful. I think I am qualified to write this article “How to live a happy life”.  They have been collected from many senior, each with his or her own piece of advice. Some you may know, some may surprise you, and some will remind you of what’s important. So read well, share with your loved ones, and have a great day and a great life! 

1. It’s time to use the money you saved up.

Use it and enjoy it. Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for an investment, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries and this is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.   

2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren. 

Don’t feel bad for spending your money on yourself. You’ve taken care of them for many years and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter, and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money. 

3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort.

Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well, and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor and get tested even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.   

4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other.

The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day, one of you will miss the other, when money will not provide any comfort. So, enjoy it together.   

5. Don’t stress over the little things.

You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten. 

6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive.

Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor, and remember: “A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.”   

7. Be proud, both inside and out.

Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.  

8. Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your sense of style.

There’s nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.  

9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date.

Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to sign up to a couple of social networks. You’ll be surprised which old friends you may meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know, is important at any age.   

10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions.

They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday’s wisdom that still applies today. 

11. Never use the phrase: “In my time”.

Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are a part of this time. Have fun and enjoy life.  

12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly.

Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.    

13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren.

Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you’ve lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.    

14. Don’t abandon your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.   

15. Even if you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations.

Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don’t get upset when you’re not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there. 

16. Be a conversationalist.

Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That’s a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.   

17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older.

Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life has added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.  

18. If you’ve been offended by someone, forgive them.

If you’ve offended someone, apologize. Don’t drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.   

19. If you have a strong belief, savour it. 

The key is not to waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.   

20. Laugh. Laugh A LOT.

Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You’ve managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what’s not to laugh about? Find the humour in your situation. 

21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking.

They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved. Let them talk and don’t worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you’ve lived so far. There’s still much to be written, so get busy writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!   

和智者的问答

问 : 失去的东西，有必要去追讨吗？
答：失去的东西，其实从未曾真正地属於你，不必惋惜，更不必追讨。

问 : 生活太累，如何轻松？
答：生活太累，一小半源於生存，一小半源於欲望与攀比。

问 : 昨天与今天，我们该如何把握？
答：不要让太多昨天占据你的今天。

问 : 如何对自己，对他人？
答：对自己好点，因为一辈子不长；对身边的人好点，因为下辈子不一定能遇见。

问 : 您如何诠释礼貌？
答：对不起是一种真诚，没关係是一种风度。如果你付出了真诚，却得不到风度，那只能说明对方的无知与粗俗。

问 : 我们如何确定自己的目标？
答：如果你知道去哪，全世界都会为你让路。

问 : 怎样平衡快乐与悲伤？
答：一个人只有一个心脏，却有两个心房。一个住著快乐，一个住著悲伤，不要笑得太大声，不然，会吵醒旁边的悲伤。

问 : 我们怎样做才叫脚踏实地？
答：只要你的脚还在地面上，就别把自己看得太轻；只要你还生活在地球上，就别把自己看得太大。

问 : 有人说爱情会因为时间而冲淡，您认为呢？
答：爱情，使人忘记时间，时间，也使人忘记爱情。

问 : 两个相爱的人不能在一起，怎麽办？
答：不能在一起就不能在一起吧！其实一辈子也没那麽长。

您认为快乐的，就去寻找。您认为值得的，就去守候。

您认为幸福的，就去珍惜。依心而行，无憾今生。

这麽好的禅理~~  想起谁，就送给谁。

Reaching the Keanu Reeves Stage of Life Can Help You Live in Tranquility

Tim Denning

Peace and quiet are seriously underrated. I love nothing more than digging through Keanu Reeves conversations to tap into my inner Yoda. It’s not easy as Keanu doesn’t say a hell of a lot. You have to really dig.

When you do, you find the weirdest remarks. You find many ellipses in the transcripts of his conversations. You find periods of silence in his interviews. You discover questions he simply can’t answer and doesn’t know why. This is my all-time favorite quote of his:

I’m at that stage in life where I stay out of discussions. Even if you say 1+1=5, you’re right — have fun.

The Keanu attitude applied to life

The shy introverted approach became popular thanks to Keanu. For every loud person screaming about how good they are to an audience of one, quieter voices began to get the spotlight. Keanu prioritizes his tranquility using these philosophies.

Don’t argue with people who aren’t listening

I get people wanting to rap battle me all the time in direct messages. One dude sent me a message yesterday and said “you didn’t quit your job. Prove it you liar.”

I thought to myself, yep you’re right, even though LinkedIn makes the evidence obvious, backed up by real-world recommendations from actual humans I worked with. It’s tempting to scream back at a screamer. But when you do, you move further away from the quiet life in the woods that billionaires pay a fortune for.

Listening is a prerequisite for a discussion. If you can’t get agreement on that, it’s not worth talking. You’re better off staying the quiet one.

Rate a person’s open-mindedness before moving forward

There are many writers I’ve stopped reading in the last few months. Their level of open-mindedness just isn’t there. They believe they are right based on their own experience, and to question them is an act of war. So, I simply mute their voice and move on to more open-minded voices.

Open-mindedness is sexiness — not because it makes your biceps appear bigger — but because open-mindedness is the gateway to understanding the world we live in.

Sometimes you hear the phrase “we’re living in The Matrix.” I used to label people crazy who’d say that. Then I started to wonder, “what if we’re all just characters in the game called “The Sims” and somebody else is running the show. What if the movie “The Truman Show” starring Jim Carrey wasn’t that far from the truth, and social media empires were the directors of our lives?

Crazy thoughts only sound off if you’re not willing to be open-minded to consider what they might be trying to tell you.

“He who knows does not speak”

This famous quote by Lao Tsu always makes me think. The people you encounter in life, who think they have all the answers, often know very little. The best wisdom can come from quiet observers who see the world rather than speak a lot to force what they see into reality.

The smartest leaders I’ve ever met don’t speak a lot. My former boss, Gandhi (nickname), didn’t say much when I met him for the first time. He simply listened to me and prodded me with his eyes to share moments from my life.

It’s what I call a “listening-first relationship.”

Tranquility of the mind occurs when the ratio between listening and speaking favors listening. I don’t learn a lot talking. It’s better to write and then listen to the feedback directed your way.

I’ve started reading comments on my social media posts a lot more recently. Keanu’s approach taught me that it’s okay to read feedback and not reply. The most accurate responses are typically left unsaid. A comment is an opinion, often, designed to gaslight you and turn on rage mode.

Rage mode is difficult to turn on when you don’t speak.

At a certain stage in life talking a lot simply isn’t important

That’s how Keanu probably feels — all the controversy, all the outlandish quotes, all the poking to get behind the scenes spoilers.

As the years create wrinkles in your skin you’re too afraid to accept are there, you move further away from the day you were born and closer to the day you’re going to die. Speaking doesn’t matter as much when the enormity of death faces you head-on. Tragedies like cancer or heart failure have more fun on older bodies.

They can come out of nowhere and end the Matrix movie you’ve been living. When you look at life like that, all the talking holds a lot less value. Talking too much can cause you to overspend the currency of time left in your life’s bank account.

You don’t always need an opinion on a subject

There’s a new pandemic: becoming over-opinionated. Why do you need an opinion? Often, in interviews, Keanu seems to have no answer to a question. He’s comfortable to hear the question, have nothing come to mind, and say “not sure.”

Imagine not having an opinion about every headline. Imagine seeing a headline and going “I don’t care about that” or “I have absolutely no clue” and moving on with your life. This is Keanu-level tranquility.

Bringing it all together

Over the years Keanu has dropped many one-liners that interrupt humanity’s collective thought patterns. “Even if you say 1+1=5, you’re right,” is a perfect example of that. It’s not ignorance. It’s using peace as a quiet protest.

Too much talking is a weapon of mass destruction in a culture addicted to outrage, trending tweets and salacious headlines.

What if being happier just meant reacting less to people who aren’t listening or refuse to be open-minded? Maybe Keanu has discovered the secret to life: saying nothing at all.

Nasi Kelabu (Khao Jam) Burden 配料

- Cekur, cucumber, kesum, long bean, bean sprouts, 

- Bunga kantan,  mint, serai, onion, pepper

- Fried shredded coconut, grilled kembong fish,

- Budu (lime, red onion, sugar, chili)

- 沙姜叶，黄瓜，香菜，长豆，豆芽，

- 姜花， 薄荷，香茅，洋葱，胡椒，

- 炒椰丝，烤甘梦鱼，

- 鱼酱 (酸甘，葱头，糖，辣椒)

Kesum, bunga kantan, serai, mint. 香菜，姜花，香茅， 薄荷。

Cekur (kaempferia galanga), long bean, fried shredded coconut. 沙姜叶，长豆，炒椰丝。

Grilled kembong fish, cucumber. Bean sprouts is option. 烤甘梦鱼，黄瓜。可加豆芽。

Budu, onion. 鱼酱，洋葱。

Budu (from Tumpat, Kelantan) + red onion + sugar + lime. 吉兰丹道北鱼酱 + 红葱头 + 糖 + 酸甘。

Nasi Kerabu (Khao Jam) Juice Ingredient

Spices & leafs that use to cook Khao Jam rice. 这些是煮 Khao Jam 饭的香料和叶子。

- Kaduk, Kesum, Kunyit, Legundi, Lemuni, Limau Purut, Noni Leaf, Pandan, Serai, Skunk Vine, Vitex Negundo, Gula Melaka

- 山捞叶，香草，黄姜，单叶蔓荆，三叶蔓荆，青柠叶，诺丽叶，香兰叶，香茅，鸡屎藤，黄荆， 椰糖

Daun Kaduk (Piper sarmentosum) 山捞叶

Daun Kesum (Vietnamese Coriander, Persicaria Odorata) 香草

Kunyit (Turmeric) 黄姜

- Use the leaf & root. 用叶子和根。

- Species from Kelantan, extra yellow in color. 来自吉兰丹，颜色比较黄。

Legundi (Roundleaf Chaste Tree, Vitex Rotundifolia) 单叶蔓荆

Lemuni (Three Leaf Chaste Tree, Vitex Trifolia) 三叶蔓荆 

Limau Purut (Kaffir Lime leaf) 青柠叶 

- Use to cook with rice. 和饭一起煮。

Daun Mengkudu (Noni Leaf) 诺丽叶

Pandan 香兰叶

Serai (Lemongrass) 香茅

Skunk Vine 鸡屎藤

Chinese Chaste Tree (Five-leaved Chaste Tree, Vitex Negundo) 黄荆

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